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Four Letter Words Christian Teens should NOT say

September 13, 2017

Do you know some teenagers or young adults who use dirty language? Words that are inappropriate, rude, and offensive?

Recently, I wrote about four letter words teenagers and young adults should be encouraged to use more often. I want to suggest two four letter words they should stop using immediately… though not because they are usually classified as being bad words or filthy language.

  • L-O-V-E

You don’t know what it means… so don’t use it.

Please understand, I am NOT saying you are stupid! (In fact, I believe you are quite intelligent). Unfortunately, you have so seldom been shown real, accurate, love. So when you say the word, you have no idea what it means. So don’t say it.

You don’t love something. You might “like” it… like you do a friends’ post on facebook. Like the cool selfie of you with Justin Trudeau or your favorite music star. But you don’t love it. You can only l-o-v-e people.

Many adults don’t know how to truly love another person, so don’t feel like you are the only segment of the population I suggest not use this four letter word anymore. I think most of us would be wise to use this word very sparingly. Because if we are going to say we love someone, we better show real love.

Love that gives. Love that serves. Love that goes the extra mile (or ten). Love that forgives. Love that sacrifices. Love that costs… time, money, physical and emotional energy. Love that is there with a person when all H-E-L-L breaks loose! That’s love!

  • F-E-A-Rheart dove graphic

I know you are afraid. How could you not be? We live in a terrible world full of danger. Don’t tell me you don’t know what’s happening in the world. You do… and that’s why you don’t access the traditional news channels. Because they are downright depressing and rage-insighting. In many respects, the world does seem hopeless.

Its okay to be afraid. And to admit it… to your friends, your parents. It doesn’t make you weak. In fact, it makes you strong. And admitting you have are afraid will also help you to gain courage and find others who can help you find strategies for dealing with fear that are healthy and productive, rather than simply ignoring or suppressing your fear.

Nonetheless, for the Christian teenager or young adult, we cannot have f-e-a-r and faith. Throughout Scripture, a frequent command in all sorts of unexpected situations is “Do not fear!”

  • For Mary when the angel appears to tell her the child she will give is pregnant with Jesus.
  • For Joseph also when he hears the news Mary is pregnant with Jesus, but its from God’s Holy Spirit.
  • To the disciples in the middle of a storm when Jesus is walking on the water.
  • Etc. Etc. Etc.

Christians of all ages have lost their faith… and as a result live in fear! And we need to repent of living that way and regain our trust in God. A trust that will dispel and cast out fear!

(un)Fortunately, John, the beloved disciple of Jesus, knew and spoke/wrote these two words… and he used them carefully. Near the end of 1 John he says,

“God is love. Whoever lives in love, lives in God, and God in him/her. Love is made complete (perfect) among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The man who fears is not made perfect in love.”
(1 John 4:16-18 New International Version)

So, if you know real l-o-v-e you will not have f-e-a-r.

Only when you understand these words in the way described by John should “love” and “fear” be part of your vocabulary!



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